
Yahari Ore no Seishun Rabukome wa Machigatteiru, My Youth Romantic Comedy Is Wrong, As I Expected in English, also known as My Teen Romantic Comedy SNAFU (SNAFU stands for Situation Normal: All Fucked Up) is a Japanese light novel series written by Wataru Watari and illustrated by Ponkan8. This name is too bloody long so I’m just going to use the common abbreviation of OreGairu instead. It is one of my all-time favourite media ever since I first read it around 2012-2013, it is also one of the rare things I give 10 out of 10 for rather than the usual “it’s alright”.
This is more of an analysis than a review and there might be a few spoilers, I will try to keep them to a minimum, but you have been warned.
The series follows a high school loner called Hachiman Hikigaya, who is forced by his teacher to join the school’s service club, working with two pretty girls who have their problems to offer help and advice to others while dealing with their inner conflicts. You might think isn’t this a typical anime story where beautiful girls randomly fall for the protagonist and they live happily in a harem together, but it couldn’t be further from the truth. Despite the title, there is little to no romance in OreGairu, even though it’s a dude with two hot girls in a room most of the time, there is no romantic spark or vibe between any of them. Initially, the girls and Hachiman don’t even like each other that much. In volume 1 to 5 of the series, the story progresses by having the group to solve problems for side characters case by a case like a mission. This helps world-building and introduce these characters into the plot. But from volume 6 to the end, the emotions and struggle turned up the heat immensely, which leads to major character development, Hachiman’s famous heartfelt confession of wanting something genuine and relationship issues between the club members surfaces and they must resolve between them at the end.
What makes OreGairu attractive to me isn’t just because of emotional dramas and roller coaster, it is the unique blend of characters, their day to day interactions, and the storytelling through the perspective of these individuals. There are 3 protagonists in the series, one of them is the aforementioned Hachiman Hikigaya, others are the two girls Yukino Yukinoshita and Yui Yuigahama. But in this writing, I want to focus on Hachiman Hikigaya as he has changed the most and his feeling are the most important since he is the viewpoint character.

Yui Yugahama is Hachiman’s classmate. She was always known as the outgoing, nice, pretty girl that everyone can get along with. But she is quite selfish and manipulative (but in a nice way!). Yui always tries to please others to blend in and she is very good at sensing changes within a social group. She admires Hachiman and Yukino’s refusal to accept and adjust to the social setting, and the fact that they can always express their true feelings. She is the only character within the group that is not fussed on looking for something genuine but thinks it’s ok to be superficial if she can the keep the things and people, in a way she wanted.
Yukino Yukinoshita is the club leader and is described to be the most confident, know it all in her group, she is smart, beautiful, and has an icy demeanour. Due to her talent and beauty, she is envied by most girls and is disgusted by their attitude to undermine her instead of improving themselves, thus she has few friends but like Hachiman, she is always true to her feelings. She has a twisted sense of noblesse oblige and believes it is the duty of the exceptional to help the “lost lambs” of the world. Her personality often leads her to be disgusted at the naiveté of others. But she is the most insecure and afraid person of the group due to the immense pressure from her family.
I portrait a lot of myself in Hachiman and agree with a lot of his views on personal connections and interactions, I would go as far as to say some parts of my life mirrored his. He had a rough time in his previous school where he was discriminated to the point that he becomes isolated before the series. Hachiman developed a twisted view on life and society due to this experience, also due to his pragmatic and logical nature, most people perceive him to be a rude and disgusting guy. He has strong social perception skills that figure out the true nature of people and their relations immediately. He is the only character that I know from any media that can come out with gold like “Effort will never betray you, though it may betray your dreams”. But deep down he is a kind, compassionate, self-sacrificial nice guy, Hachiman believes that he is an unimportant existence and uses his low social status to find solutions by taking the blame to keep everyone else happy.
Despite these years of social isolation and hurt, Hachiman still has hope and crave for the interactions, he wants a genuine connection with someone, even though he tells himself he doesn’t. I can relate a lot to this, although I’m not a loner like Hachiman, I too consider most relationships in the world to be shallow and dishonest. I’m not saying everyone is an asshole, some of it can be kind intentions but generally, people behave in a particular way to fit into a certain group or put up a distinct face to secure their status quo within a said group, some people just do it unaware to continue in their relationship, even if it might not be what they truly desire. Just like Hachiman, I absolutely despise these “fake” relationships and detest those who tried form one with me, although our motives are slightly different, we both willing to sacrifice our feelings and well-being to help someone as far as we can to the bitter end believing that there might be something genuine at the very end and we both know this is just wishful thinking.
This kind of characters is like an egg, hard to crack, but once you get through, it’s all soft and easily damaged. This type of personality has a defence mechanism for self-protection, for him, it is his distrust of people and cold demeanour to avoid building bond with anyone, and for me, it is my notorious lack of compassion and empathy. This avoidant lets them evade instituting unnecessary devotion and reduces the likelihood of getting hurt because once they are committed to helping, they’ll be extremely emotionally invested and affected by it. Well, in my case instead of feeling hurt, I just get very irritated and bothersome by something irrelevant that I should’ve never get affected by.
Initially, the bond of the club member shares plays a stark contrast to Hayato Hayama’s clique and later the student council. Hayato Hayama is a perfect foil to Hachiman, he is a typical good looking, charismatic central figure of the class, an alpha male character. Hayama is kind to everyone and he wants to maintain his social gathering even if its superficial to keep everyone happy. He is willing to bend his will to act and perform as what everyone is expected to him. However, he is poor at handling complicated social matters and occasionally he appears to be indecisive when he must deal with these circumstances within his clique, rather than showing his true colours, he will step away from these issues. His characteristics and methods contrast that of Hachiman. The relationships in his clique are also very different from the service club, Yumiko who likes Hayama but couldn’t confess to him, Ebina hides her true feeling of not wanting to be a relationship, so she doesn’t upset the dynamic of the group. Tobe, Yamato, and Ōoka are only in this clique because they are a friend of Hayama but not with each other. Yui is in the clique too and she likewise never reveal her real sentiment towards them. Hachiman concludes that the bond the clique possesses is feeble and artificial opposed to that of the service club which is much more sincere.
Unfortunately for Hachiman, later in the series his group also turn superficial, because the club is precious to him, instead of rejecting it, he has become a hypocrite and accepted changes and pretend nothing ever happened. At some point in our lives, I am sure that everyone has accepted a superficial relationship. I am a stone-hearted individual and even for someone like me, has handled certain relationship perplexities without being the real me, like Hachiman, I altered my behaviour and diminish my value as a person. I didn’t notice what I’ve done at the time but soon realised it after a cooling down period and as a person who prides myself on honesty and integrity, I didn’t enjoy those actions, nor do I ever wanted to do it. But this is what sometimes real life does to you, just like me Hachiman must learn and grow from those experience to continue his quest to find a genuine relationship. OreGairu does an excellent job of fitting in these real-life scenarios into the plot to develop the characters.
OreGairu makes incredible use of subtext within the dialogue to enhance the atmosphere of each scene and make the characters stand out. Hachiman is a character that is brilliant at reading between the lines and able to turn other’s intentions and interpret them as a negative narrative or to point out the superficial behaviours or contradictions. Since he is not in any social circle it makes his opinions appear impartial and justified, the reader is experiencing this though him and feel the same way. This becomes more and more apparent as the story progresses and getting more personal and emotional and Hachiman starts to oppose and lie to himself. It makes it easy to get emotional with him not just because he is a relatable character but also that we already have an attachment to his sorrows and witnessed his inner conflict and know what he sincerely desires.
The fact that OreGairu is unusual in this genre and its characters are unique while being very likeable and relatable places it firmly ahead of anything I’ve ever seen. It bravely has a self-deprecating main character and highlights faults in our sociality structure, and how frail human relationships are. But it often points them out in a timely and friendly manner, like the teacher giving a bit of wisdom and life advice to Hachiman when he is stuck and not sure what he should do, the reader can resonate this with their own experience and grow with the cast.
I love all the characters in OreGairu also its unique plot and storytelling! Teacher Hiratsuka’s advice to Hachiman especially stand out to me, such as “human connection will easily fade away naturally if someone doesn’t choose to maintain it”, and then tell him that if he wants to keep something he has to make an effort otherwise people just tend to walk their separate ways, these are some words of gold and there are many more that I like. Although this turned into massive writing about Hachiman, he is such a compelling character that I couldn’t help myself to do so. Honesty I can’t praise this series enough, every aspect of it is made to a high standard from the ground up, the settings, characters, writing, all the way to the little details are fantastic. I highly recommend it to anyone, even if they are not into Japanese culture and story, romcom, or a slice of life genre!
PS. season 3 of the anime is coming out soon, which I’m very excited for. The anime pays great attention to detail to the original work, the voice actor’s performance is also incredible, the production team brought life to the series in ridiculous detail down to its very last cells and bone! The atmosphere, the music, and the visuals are just marvellous. I would recommend it as much as I do with the novel!






